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God: Our Father and Mother in Heaven

Have you ever used 'Mother' or 'Mummy' as a way to speak or pray to God?  It is not so outlandish as you might think.  After all, God is the author, the creator of gender, and not the subject of it.  When Jesus' disciples asked him how they should pray, he answered that they (and therefore 'we') should begin with 'Our Daddy in Heaven' ('Daddy' is much closer to the Aramaic word which Jesus uses than is 'Father').  It is an intimate warm term which speaks of a loving God who is close to us and our needs, and neither distant nor stern.  In his actions and teachings Jesus illustrated that God is merciful and forgiving, gentle and protective (see the parable of the prodigal son, or Jesus' reference to himself as like a mother-hen in Matthew 23: 37).  There was certainly an understanding in the Jewish faith that the feminine was a part of the Divine - as we can see from the 'Wisdom literature' of the Old Testament and other texts - for example God as 'midwife' in Psalm 22:9-10, and Isaiah 66:9).

Does it matter whether we use 'Father' or 'Daddy' or the feminine equivalents? - well, perhaps not, so long as we do not lose sight of the loving God who is at the heart of our prayers.  The trouble is, if we exclusively use masculine images and terms for God, our understanding of God can become polluted by poor male role-models, and a human history which is sadly over-exampled with patriarchal oppression and abuse.  Exclusively using female terms might eventually lead to similar distortions, but generally in our world it has been, and is still, women who have been the oppressed rather than the oppressors.

Yet perhaps there is an evolutionary (or even revolutionary) advantage in our using 'Father' or 'Daddy' because by using these terms in prayer, we bring into God's healing presence, our imperfect fatherhood, and the fallen-ness of patriarchal systems.  In addition to his heavenly father, Jesus had a wonderful example of a tolerant, patient, protective loving human father - whose role at the very start of Jesus' earthly life is so subtle and gentle, yet so strong in his determination to stick-by his family.

Whatever our gender, and whether or not we have children of our own, we are all called to 'parent' our fellow human beings after the manner of our 'Parent in Heaven.'

When we pray 'Daddy' or 'Mummy', 'Father' or 'Mother' we offer to God our own parent-nature, for its healing and equipping.  When we come before God with all our child-nature and  its need and vulnerability, the distortions in our images and knowledge of God can be cleared away like mist clearing in a new dawn.

May our ever-loving Father/Mother in Heaven bring you and our world, healing, peace and joy.

Rob Wynford-Harris

May 2016

'What on Earth has happened ...?'

It's a common refrain, and often used as a lament rather than out of mere puzzlement, for example; "What on Earth has happened to our country ... (world / town-centre / Island / children / politicians / church ... add your own!)" If we use it more literally - we are usually in some sort of shock - perhaps after someone arrives at our doorstep looking pale and anxious, or we hear a sudden loud noise or shout.

Well, in terms of what has just happened, the answer is that we have all just experienced Easter. For some it will have been a tenuous connection to an ancient festival celebrated through the eating of (less ancient one hopes) chocolate eggs and the once seasonal Hot Cross Buns.

Christians - (who generally are good at celebrating) will also have had their share of gastronomic goodies. However, many Christians still ask 'What on Earth has happened?' in a real attempt to grasp the significance of the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. In this, they re-embody the questions, doubts and fears of the first Christians - nearly two thousand years ago. They grappled with the horrific death of Jesus upon the cross, and his miraculous resurrection witnessed not by just a few but by hundreds in and around Jerusalem.

On the cross, Jesus met with and absorbed the most cruel and dehumanising aspects of human nature - aspects which still haunt the world today. Yet on the cross Jesus broadcast a different kind of revenge for atrocity. His 'revenge' is love, mercy and forgiveness. Jesus, fully human and fully divine, becomes the antidote to our inhumanity.

Appearing to his disciples and other witnesses (eating with them, sharing fellowship again) Jesus called them and continues to call others into the process of Salvation, the process of a recreated-world, and a recreated humanity.

What on Earth has just happened is the re-birth of HOPE.
Go tell it on the mountains - Christ Is Risen, He Is Risen Indeed! 

No matter what concerns or worries you today in your own life or globally, may the season of Easter which has now begun, be a time of new hope and new Joy for each of you, and for our world.

Rob Wynford-Harris

April 2016


It is to the shame of the Christian church (of all denominations) that its history is peppered with examples of violence, extremism, and the oppression and abuse of those who should have been cared for and protected by the church. Yet at it's inception, when God came to us in Jesus - fully human, fully divine, - the followers of 'The Way' (as Jesus disciples and followers were sometimes called) practiced a faith which was radically inclusive of women, children, and those from other racial, political, social and religious backgrounds. The reason for this radical inclusivity is found in Jesus himself, who, constantly in his ministry defended the oppressed, the weak, the underprivileged. Even one's feared enemy could, according to Jesus teaching in the parable of the Good Samaritan, be the source of rescue and salvation. It is the 'foreign' Samaritan and not his own countryfolk who save the man who is robbed and beaten by thieves on the road to Jericho.

My hope and prayer is that the 21st century church can become more true to its origins in Jesus 1st century teaching and ministry and be joyfully diverse and welcoming. When we welcome people into church, we are not so much welcoming them into a 'building' or 'club of like-minded, like-voting people' - though sadly the church has sometimes given this impression; rather, we are inviting people into relationship with God and the knowledge of God's love for them - just as they are, where they are.

Christ unites us, but he does not homogenise us!

If your local church isn't diverse enough, join it and change it!

May God richly bless you this month and lead you into a deeper knowledge of how much He loves you.

Rob Wynford-Harris

February 2016


Ask someone to draw or imagine a picture of Jesus, and the chances are that the image they come up with will be either a picture of baby Jesus or Jesus Christ on the Cross.  These two images 'bookend' our faith and are also how non-Christians view our faith. There are of course all sorts of other images of Jesus which are important to draw upon from his life between the events of his birth and death and also, vitally, images of his resurrection. But perhaps it is those two 'bookends' which most powerfully tell of God's love for humanity and why Christ Mass is good news for all the world.

The painting which Lynn New - (local artist and Licensed Lay Reader in these parishes} has designed for our parish Christmas cards, wonderfully incorporates these two 'bookend images'.

In the centre of a radiant golden star which, being cross-shaped, echoes Ihe crucifixion, there is a nativity scene - the vulnerable baby (fully human and fully divine), just visible as a tiny detail in the manger.  Cross and nativity-scene meet wilh a gathering of coloured human shapes who are drawn in need or curiosity to the miracle of Jesus' birth and the power of the cross. Above the cross/star, a host of Angels swirl in a dance which declares without words: 'Peace, goodwill to all humankind'.  If the human shapes in Lynn's painting remind you of hopes, dreams or burdens that you carry, - you will not be alone in seeing that. If they remind you of refugees seeking safety, peace and freedom, you will not be alone either.

Lynn's card reminds us that the miracle of Christmas is that Jesus Christ comes to meet us where we are, comes to the dark and suffering places in our world and in our personal lives, and shares our burdens, sufferings, hopes and dreams. Comes as one of us, and one who knows us and loves us. Loves us enough that when WE lead Him to the cross, Jesus does not exact vengeance, but returns instead Love, Mercy ond Forgiveness.

At Christmas we celebrate God made flesh, a Saviour who knows what it is like to be us.  Those two 'Bookends' - The Crib and the Cross are what enable us with all our personal struggles and global problems to nevertheless call out 'Happy Christmas'.

May God bless each of you this Christmas - and may you know Jesus' presence with you as your friend and Saviour. Anthea, Luke and I wish all who read this a very happy Christmas!

Rob Wynford-Harris

December 2015


November is not only a month of remembrance but also that of anticipation: the 'expectant waiting' which is so vital to the period of 'Advent' in the Church Calendar, which begins on the 29th November. In this period of 'waiting' we focus on the world's needs: it's sorrows and it's wrongdoing. We look at the suffering, the injustice, the oppression and violence still present in our world; and we recognise our need of a Messiah, a Saviour. And miraculously, God himself comes as our saviour, humbly and vulnerably as one of us, entering fully into the deepest of personal woes, the darkest of global crises. In the darkening month of November, we anticipate the light of hope which will shine 'In the bleak mid-winter'. I love the following poem by R.S. Thomas which is often read at Christmas, but is perhaps better read during Advent:

The Coming

And God held in his hand
A small globe. Look, he said
The son looked. Far off,
As through water, he saw
A scorched land of fierce
Colour. The light burned
There; crusted buildings
Cast their shadows; a bright
Serpent, a river
Uncoiled itself, radiant
With slime.

                     On a bare
Hill a bare tree saddened
The sky. Many people
Held out their thin arms
To it, as though waiting
For a vanished April
To return to its crossed
Boughs. The son watched
Them. Let me go there, he said.

May God bless us all, as we wait.

Rob Wynford-Harris

November 2015

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