I had a very happy childhood together with my two elder brothers, Jack and Tom, Jack being the middle brother and somewhat the “odd man out” for he tended to be “bolshie”, not conforming to the “household rules”.
As a result, if anyone was being severely punished (often for being late for Sunday lunch, keeping us all waiting), it would be Jack and as a result, there grew up a barrier between him and Dad that continued until right through to adulthood.
If you thought of God as a loving Father, then as far as Jack was concerned, he couldn’t imagine it. Sadly, there was little love lost between him and Dad.
Jack, I am sure was not an exception in finding difficulty in imagining God as a “loving” father and indeed in today’s brutal world, where physical abuse of children seems to be growing, nor can many children who carry the scars (both physical and psychological) of an unhappy childhood into their adult thinking.
Reading the early “historical” books of the Old Testament, God is seen as a vicious, brutal being who commands His Chosen People to murder whole communities, including children and babes in arms, taking their land and flocks.
Yet, even in the Old Testament we find indications of another face of God.
After Cain has murdered his brother Abel, God protects him from being lynched by his neighbours, and in the writings of all the prophets, and the “Rulebooks” of Deuteronomy and Leviticus, provision is to be made for the welfare of widows, the homeless and the “strangers” (immigrants and refugees). Perhaps we should particularly remember the latter.
Read the prophet Hosea (chapter 11) and you find that there is a gentle side of God, likening Him to a Father who takes the hands of His little children, leading and loving them.
Which is the true picture of God then?
We have to have in mind this gentler side of God, remembering that trying to compare the earthly with the heavenly is unproductive.
The “Fatherhood” of God and His character are seen in the life and teaching of Jesus, uncoloured by tribal and religious differences, where we are seen as God’s lambs and sheep of whom “The very hairs of their heads are numbered”.
The God, who in Jesus, takes the little children and gathers them in His arms, warning about the terrible punishment to be meted to those who hurt or abuse them. Jesus (who is the true expression of the character of God), tells us that if we are to be accepted by Him, then we must have the attributes of children.
Not to be crawling on the carpet in our spiritual nappies, but have the trusting, open-ness, sincerity and eagerness to learn, which should be the adult/child relationship.
We speak of the “fear of the Lord”, but the word means “respect” rather than being frightened. I confess that as a youngster I was frightened of this great ogre-like Father, when I should have been helped to discover that Our Father in His magnificent greatness, loves and forgives me and in the character displayed by the Son of God is warm, approachable and desiring only that we may have the right relationship with Him.
The very first wedding I conducted as a curate was the worst possible experience, with a drunken congregation (including the bride’s father). The service began with the words, “Dearly beloved” and after the service, I stormed into the Vicar’s study and in response to his enquiry as to how it had gone, I said, “Fancy expecting me to call that lot ‘Dearly Beloved’, the way that they behaved!” He shook his head and said gently, “George, you may not have found them loveable, but God, their Father does, so much that He died for them on a cross; Remember that always”. I have tried to do so in my dealings with our Father’s children at all their ages and in all their stages, and I hope it may have made me a better parish priest.
7 October 2018
THANK YOU Alison for providing the handsome Harvest Lunch last Sunday and all who helped and brought desserts. Thoroughly enjoyable with a lovely atmosphere.
“Always let your conscience be your guide”, so sings a character in a Walt Disney film, which at first reading sounds a fine idea, but there are problems if we’re talking about “Conscience” being the voice of God, guiding us in our day to day behaviour.
Some folk think this is a good expression of God, that small voice directing our actions upon which we can all rely, and at first thought that sounds sense.
However, it’s not as easy as that, for we need to ask
“What feeds our conscience?”
We need to examine this a little more deeply and think how our individual consciences can be manipulated to be unreliable, morally..
Much depends upon our personal upbringing.
Had you been growing up in Germany in the 1930s, with the continual persecution and vilification of the Jews, a young boy would have been led to believe that doing so, was good and right.
Considering the evil influence of this community, it would seem to him to be morally acceptable in the same way that with the divisive nature of the pro-Brexit campaign it seemed considered right to persecute immigrants and refugees within Britain, yet clean contrary to the moral values of the prophets and of course, Jesus.
Deuteronomy and Leviticus list the kindnesses that people should offer to the widow, the stranger (ie refugees and immigrants), that are clean contrary to the tone of other sections of the Old Testament, where none but the pure Jew must triumph regardless of the hurt it inflicts upon others.
One could continue to list ways in which environment and Society can influence what we consider to be good or evil.
To a great extent with the increasing secularisation of England, we are drifting from the Christian morality which in the past shaped so much of our national conscience, to an “I” conscience, where much of our behaviour is guided by how something will affect ME.
If we wish to hear the voice of God, it will not necessarily come through a misdirected conscience, but by reference to the life and teaching of Jesus and the prophets.
We need to soak ourselves in these teachings and example of Jesus and the Divine guidance that the prophets offer, who so often condemn the accepted morality of, what St. John describes as “The World”.
The sad truth is that our consciences can easily be misdirected by external influences and reflect the morals of those around us, and the tenor of the age.
According to our up-bringing, things that are of no moral consequence, such as a youngster being brought up in a vegetarian family, will find his/her conscience challenging, when in other company they are confronted with non-vegetarian foods.
Likewise, a businessman may excuse his poor treatment of employees, because it is for the good of the economy and thus for the “common good”.
If we truly want to hear the “Voice of God”, we shall need to abandon the easy, accommodating thoughts feeding us, and discover the right, but not always easy to obey, directions of Jesus, the true Voice.
The truth of God’s nature is to be found only in the conscience that has been influenced by past Christian teaching and practise; otherwise, the Voice of God becomes nothing but an accumulation of so many possibly negative voices.
The Dean of Wells Cathedral irritated me (not all that difficult), but at the end of the Cathedral Eucharist, he would throw his hands in the air, and proclaim “The Eucharist is ended; go in peace”!.
Why was I irritated? Because it wasn’t (and isn’t) true.
What I wanted to stand up and say was “No it isn’t, Mr. Dean”, (“Mr.” is the correct title when addressing a Dean!), “actually, It’s only just begun!”.
When I was young, seeing the Church Notices at All Saints’, Ryde I saw that at 9.30 there was a “Sung Eucharist” which confused me, with a famous toothpaste being titled “Eucryl”, only to discover later that Eucharist in Greek (Eucharisto), means “Thanksgiving”!.
Which brings me on to the thought that “Thanksgiving” does not feature that often in our Sunday intercessions. Surely, the well mannered when asking for something, should precede it by saying to the donor “Thank you” for what we have already enjoyed.
How often if ever, do we say “Grace” when beginning or ending a meal?
As a child I and my 2 brothers were never allowed to leave the table until we had said a “Grace” even if it was only “Thank you God for our good (supper, dinner, whatever); can I please get down now?”
So, call it what you will, but “Eucharist” was one of the earliest names for The Lord’s Supper, remembering that Greek was a common language at the time.
So, our service is a Eucharist ” a “Thank you” service. The “Sung Thank you”, if you like.
Here we call it the “Parish Communion” and we’ll think about that another time, but it means, that is “The Parish Sharing”.
Now, let’s return to our enthusiastic Dean, proclaiming “Our Eucharist (Thank you) is ended".
Turn to your Book of Common Prayer; there is a Prayer of Thanksgiving (in which at one time the whole congregation would join and know by heart).
In it we say thanks for all God’s Blessings, and it continues that we “Show forth thy praise, not only with our lips, (that’s the easy bit) but in our lives (the hard bit), by giving up ourselves to thy service and walking before thee in holiness and righteousness all the days of our life”.
Where are we going to do that?
Why, in our daily living, our encounters with our fellow men and women.
What our Eucharist does, is to provide us by the Sacrament and worshipping with our fellow Christians, the strength to live that life of “serving”; “Serving God and our neighbour”
The Eucharist does not end with the Blessing. It’s full effect will be shown by the way we live, when we have gone through the church doors into the real world with all its opportunities and challenges.
When the priest dismisses us at the end of the Service we are reminded that we are sent out on a mission.
That is, “To love and serve the Lord”.
St. Paul tells us how we are to live the Eucharist OUTSIDE the church doors, and “In the Name of Christ”.
Here’s a list (Galatians 5, vv22-23):
Love, Joy & Peace: describes the Christian’s relationship with God and what we receive from God
Patience, Kindness and Goodness: describes the Christian’s experience in relation to others - our attitudes
Faithfulness, Gentleness & Self-control: describes our relationship with others, being trustworthy, humble, but not a “push-over”
Other “Gifts of the Spirit” are listed in: Romans 12, 1 Corinthians 12, Ephesians 4. Do read, pray and ponder over them.
With these gifts, if we will, we can “live” the Eucharist.
Saturday mornings at the Scala Cinema in Ryde, I and 2 friends sat enthralled, particularly watching the cowboy films starring “Hop-along Cassidy” and Tonto.
Often there seemed to be conflicts with the resident Indians, culminating with a peace pact, where the “Pipe of Peace” was smoked, plus a strange blood ceremony, where a gash in the arm, placed against a similar gash in the erstwhile opponent’s arm, mingled their blood, with the immortal words “Ugh, me blood brother” and peace reigned. We tried unsuccessfully to recreate this in the cycle shed at Sandown Sec.!
However, this wasn’t just a cinematic event, for something similar is recorded in Exodus 24, vv1-11, being the description of a ceremony to renew the Covenant (Agreement) between God and His people of Israel.
First, God’s Law (the 10 Commandments) are read to the gathered assembly, to which they reply “All that the Lord has commanded us, we will do”; animals are sacrificed and the blood gathered in two basins.
Having made this covenant with God, the basins are taken and the contents of one thrown over the altar (God’s share), the other its contents are scattered over the people.
Thus, in the Jewish mind, like our red Indians, the covenant is confirmed at Sinai and God and mankind joined in a blood relationship, removing any enmity between the two parties.
Blood, being the source and maintenance of life was regarded with great reverence, and through the sacrifices in general, worshippers were enabled by purchasing (at a price calculated according to their financial standing) something to sacrifice, to offer their lives by proxy in service and worship of God.
In ancient Jewish circles, every agreement between two parties (even buying some land or property) was sealed with a sacrifice ensuring that God was brought into the process as a witness.
Not surprisingly, our Eucharist has undertones of these ancient practises, and when the New Covenant (Testament) is instituted in the Upper Room, and Jesus says: “A NEW commandment I give you, that you love one another as I have loved you”, He supersedes the original 10, and it is sealed as Jesus passes the common cup around His disciples.
The sacrificial blood is that shed on the cross (study the Epistle to the Hebrews and this will give you the thinking of the first Christians on the matter).
God is insistent that it is for ALL to drink and it is extraordinary that for hundreds of years in the Roman Church only the priest drank from the chalice; the ordinary folk had to be content with bread alone until quite recently when the Pope restored it to them.
However, using the common cup the other element appears for thereby we are rather like our Indians of my first paragraphs; through it we are spiritually joined to our fellow worshippers.
Some people worry about the chances of infection by so doing, but there has never in my 60+ years’ experience and that of informed experts been any instance where an infection could be traced to using a common cup. Wine is in effect a useful disinfectant.
So we come to the Eucharist week by week to renew our commitment to the new Law of Love, receiving strength to enable us to do so and are joined spiritually to all our fellow worshippers. “All one Body we”.
I wept as I knelt, holding Ness’s paw, as the gentle lady vet did the last thing I could do for my beloved dog by putting her to “sleep”.
Liver failure had done its worst and unable to stand and no longer eating, this 15yr. old, Border Collie whose companionship I had enjoyed for 6 yrs. (she was a rescue) it was now time to allow her to go in peace.
She now lies in my son Peter’s garden at Chale Green.
Why the tears? Simply because Ness had been my faithful companion for 6 years and one can only say that I wept because I loved her. All pet owners will recognise that feeling.
That is the problem with love. Once we begin to love anyone or anything, we run the risk of being hurt at some stage, when something happens to that which we love. That can apply, not only to human beings or pets, but also to anything that has occupied the central part of our affections, even our car, or bike, or some other inanimate object.
C. S. Lewis wrote,“To love at all, is to become vulnerable”
The truth is, that if you wish to avoid being hurt, then the answer is simply that you love no one or nothing.
However, not to “love” is inhuman, for all of us, however depraved, have affections for something, so the capacity to be hurt is universal.
However, if this is true of human beings, common sense will tell us that it is, then what about God?
The God portrayed in some of the Old Testament seems to us often to be cruel and vindictive, but this is not true of all of it.
The prophets gradually discerned that there was another aspect of God and that He is loving, caring and forgiving; sadly this message doesn’t seem to have got through even to self-confessed Christians.
That message was brought to its fulfilment in the life and teaching of Jesus, who by word and example as the Son of God showed us that this was indeed true.
It’s a pity that often in history, people, including Christians, have justified the most evil actions on the basis that they believe that this is what God wishes.
If God is love as Jesus taught and so many New Testament texts declare then it follows, not only that God abhors many actions done in His Name, equally He does not send calamities and disasters, whether on an individual or global scale, for a loving God will want the best for His Creation.
The popular notion that God sends illness or disasters, as a punishment, or that it is His will that some child should die of cancer is alien to the life and teaching of Jesus.
If God is love, then it follows that when anything happens to us whom He loves so much that He sent His only Son to enter our world and die on a cross for us, then surely God like us, will suffer also?
God is not remote, uncaring, incapable of hurt, for if He is, then He cannot be a God of love.
Have you ever thought how the heart of God must ache when He surveys the world, in which we could all live happily and fruitfully, yet is marred by cruelty, greed and so much avoidable human suffering; stemming from our own failure to live lives conforming to Jesus’ teaching or in harmony with the wonderful world that He has created?
Love and hurt go hand in hand, so much so that a modern hymn says this:
God is love; and He enfoldeth all the world in one embrace;
With unfailing grasp He holdeth every child in every race,
And when human hearts are breaking under sorrow’s iron rod,
Then they feel that self-same aching deep within the heart of God”.
That thought sustains me and I hope it will you.
9 September 2018
Ness (suffering from a liver failure) was “put to sleep” last Sunday